Both print and internet media are full of stories regarding the benefits of a friendly parting of the ways at the end of a marriage. In fact, many Illinois couples may feel compelled to try to work things out amicably because of all the hype. It is true that people tend to end up with better settlements and more satisfactory experiences when the divorce is amicable, but not every couple has the luxury of making this choice.
In fact, some will need to go to court because one party seems to thrive on conflict. This person may even argue over trivial points or property simply to agitate the situation. So what is the other party to do?
First, be sure to get as much financial documentation as possible. A high-conflict person may attempt to hide assets or claim less income in order to avoid paying more in child support or alimony, among other things. Make as many of the communications as possible in writing. This provides a trail of evidence regarding any agreements, threats or other issues that may need to be used in court. Lastly, this personality type may try to get the other party to "give in" through bullying tactics.
Having the appropriate evidence and a legal advocate could help get an Illinois resident through a divorce with this type of individual. Having to go to court may not be preferable, but it may be necessary. Some couples may still attempt mediation, but if that does not work, the courts are there to keep such personality types in check and provide a fair and reasonable outcome.
Source: goodmenproject.com, "Toxic Divorce? Forget the Hazmat Suit and Do This Instead", Bari Zell Weinberger, Sept. 20, 2017